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March 30, 2018
Two weeks ago, the IAFF lost three brothers in the line of duty — two fire fighters from York City, Pennsylvania, and one from New York City. While thousands will gather to honor the deceased, the grieving process has just begun for those closest to the loss.
Grief is a normal response of sorrow, heartache or loss that occurs after losing someone or something important to you. Grief can also occur in the aftermath of a major disaster or other traumatic event. In these instances, you may or may not have a close relationship with those lost. When a fire fighter dies in the line of duty, crew members will experience feelings of grief.
Grief is not considered a psychological disorder, but does involve several emotional, behavioral and physiological reactions:
These reactions are considered normal. Grief can be experienced differently from person to person. While some will find relief in the support of crew and family, others will prefer to be alone. For most, the reactions described above usually subside within a few weeks or months. The individual can accept the loss and function in the new normal. For some, however, grief can linger and transform into complicated grief, which can also be diagnosed as clinical depression.
Key differences between grief and complicated grief:
|Waves of emotion come and go||Sadness, anger or despair are daily and persistent|
|Despite desire to withdraw, individual responds positively to social support||Individual is unable to feel comfort from social support|
|Individual has good days and bad days||Individual has mostly bad days and daily functioning is consistently impaired|
|Sporadic thoughts of death are tied to desire to reunite with deceased, or a general curiosity about death||Recurring thoughts of death are tied to feeling worthless, undeserving or unable to cope|
While grief is a universal human reaction, for fire fighters and paramedics, some aspects of the grieving process are influenced by the unique aspects of job. When a fire fighter or paramedic dies in the line of duty, crew members may still be responsible for clearing the scene, carrying out usual protocol, notifying family members and other required duties.
While funerals and memorial services offer a rare moment to pause and truly honor the loss, many fire fighters and paramedics are back to work the same or next day.
Regardless of their grief or emotional state, fire fighters on shift are expected to function at full capacity, make immediate critical decisions and protect the community at large. While work provides an important sense of structure, routine and normalcy that help facilitate the grieving process, work can also be used to avoid emotion, which can complicate the grieving process.
Most fire fighters and paramedics function extremely well under pressure and the fast-paced nature of the job. For many, the hardest part is coping with the down time after a shift has ended or the memorial services have concluded. Coping with grief may challenge you to act the opposite way you feel. Examples include:
Fire fighters and paramedics have a calling to serve others, protect their community and each other. When a line-of-duty death occurs, those brothers and sisters directly or indirectly involved with an incident may experience survivor’s guilt.
This occurs when an individual feels a sense of guilt that they survived the traumatic incident when the deceased did not. Feelings that the survivor should have done more to prevent the loss may also be triggered. When an individual or department faces a tragic loss, it’s important to acknowledge these feelings with others. Talking to someone is necessary to express emotion and evaluate the truth of your feelings. Reach out to a trusted friend, chaplain, peer support team or your EAP. Survivor’s guilt is a normal response to an unnatural loss. Talking about it helps.
If you are struggling to cope, reach out to The IAFF Center of Excellence for Behavioral Health and Treatment Recovery today to determine what level of treatment may be right for you.